10 Ways to Immediately Unf*ck Yourself
10 Actions you can complete this week.
Today, we’re getting right to the point with “10 Ways to Unfuck Yourself”, a list to help men and women get their life in gear.
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The list below is broken into advice aimed at men and advice aimed at women, and three action items for both to take.
10 Actions to Become a Better Person
1. Get a Haircut/Your Hair Done
Men: Getting your haircut is an immediate upgrade to your appearance. If you stack two men side by side, exactly alike, except once has a nice haircut and the other doesn’t, the nicer haircut guy wins - every time. People pay attention to these things, so it’s important that you get your hair cut consistently; I’m a “fade guy” so I’m going to the barber bi-weekly.
Try a new cut.
Grow it out and work a new look into the mix.
Get a new color scheme (just some highlights will work).
Women: Get your hair done or take the time to do something with your hair. More often than not, your hair is longer, and you’re not getting it trimmed as much as men will; that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be taking the time to curl, style, braid, or set your hair as frequently (if not more frequently) than a man is getting his cut. If every day you do the same thing because it’s easy, you’re giving the bare minimum to life, and thus, you’ll get the same in return.
2. Dress a Degree Higher
Men: This doesn’t mean where a tuxedo; it means that when you’re going pumpkin picking, to a cookout, or even just downtown for some shopping, you choose to get out of the gym shorts and hoodie and put on a nice V-Neck, Jeans, or Henley. Don’t walk out of the house half-assed, be more intentional than that.
Buy/Wear better fitting cuts.
Get rid of “High School” clothes.
Dress like you expect to see someone you know.
Women: Leggings are not appropriate for every occasion, take the time to put a nice outfit together, wear a dress when the weather permits, or take the time to put some effort into a look instead of chasing maximum comfort.
“Dress for the body you have while you work for the body you want.” - My wife
3. Do Something New
Men: I know you can wear the same thing, eat the same thing, and do the same thing day in and day out, but that doesn’t mean you should. Break your routine and do something new, the experience of altered patterns will have you building memories and enjoying experiences that should improve your outlook on life.
Check out new restaurants.
Try a new hobby or daily routine.
Go to a town you’ve never been to.
Women: Going out, being carefree, jumping without knowing where you’re going to land all come with some self-preservation reactions, but when you learn to let go, you realize that life is about more than control and guarantees.
4. Maintain Hygiene
Men: There’s nothing impressive about your armpit hair sticking out of the sleeves of your polo, you smelling like ass, or how you’ll wear the same clothes all weekend long.
Use some form of soap/deodorant.
Shower at the minimum, once a day.
Trim body hair that’s getting too long all over your body.
Women: Look, nobody is telling you this because we’re not supposed to say it to women, but y’all need to ensure you’re washing your ass too, and shaving + changing clothes from day to day or during the day when appropriate.
Nobody gets a pass to be nasty.
5. Read A Book
Men/Women: Books teach you quite a bit more than the subject matter contained within them.
Reading develops the ability to focus long-term.
Books help you get more comfortable being alone.
Reading is a great way to break the addiction to electronics.
These skills will help every adult be a better person and help every person get more from life itself.
6. Stop Being So Miserable
Men: Break the habit of bitching about your life and the state of the world; nobody is going to snap you out of it as everyone is used to it, so I’m taking the privilege from my comfortable seat on the other side of the screen to tell you that men don’t bitch, they make their life great without regard to what the world is doing.
It’s okay to see the best in others.
The world’s problems are not your problems.
Whatever hurt you in the past, stop carrying it into the present.
Women: Nobody likes a nag or a “boss bitch”. No matter what Nicki Minaj or Cardi B says, people who are always irritated and nit-picking are not people anyone enjoys or wants to be around. Be a nice and bright person who elevates those around them.
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