Create a Lasting Marriage of Love by Mastering Emotional and Physical Connection
Marriages should age like wine, not milk.
Couples can reignite the flame and invigorate their connection with understanding, effort, and creativity. We’ll address some practical strategies, both simple and profound, to help you rediscover the joy and satisfaction of your marriage or long-term relationship and keep the love alive for many more years to come.
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In order to ever move forward in the present with your lady, you need to be prepared to let go of the past.
How can you expect your relationship to sail to better places when you’re clinging with all your might to the pier?
To reignite passion and romance or bring it to life in the first place, it is crucial to remind ourselves of the love and happiness that brought us together in the first place. By revisiting cherished memories and recounting shared experiences, couples can rekindle the emotional intimacy that underpins a fulfilling marriage.
Look at what the two of you were doing before you got together; those things are what attracted you to one another.
For Jackie and I, we were 16 years old; I’ve matured, so I’m going to be doing different things, but even in this drastic time difference of 20 years together, a part of our “Secret to Success” is that I still focus on being that “eyes wide open” self, with the same sense of wonder and adventure for life that I had as a teenager.
If I had to boil it down for you to be as simple to understand and apply as possible, I’d say you have to go back to being fun again.
Building emotional connection is the first step towards increasing attraction, desire, love, lust, laughter, and a sense of unified purpose.
Take the weight off you and your woman’s shoulders, giving the two of you a chance to exist without bills, schedules, etc. weighing you down. Go out and break some routines, and have some care-free time together where you play and enjoy the life you’ve built.
When you are once again welcoming life each day, and not dreading waking up, bitching throughout the day, miserable with the state of the world, and always stressed or anxious about whatever - you’re a horrible person to be around, and any sane individual if given the chance, would choose to be with someone else.
Think about who you were as a kid, did you like other kids who were fucking miserable and never wanted to play, or did you like the other kids who wanted to run, climb, explore, and do crazy shit?
I was an active kid, a funny kid, and one who went after life; that’s who I need to be as a husband, father, and man.
Now that we’ve addressed the need for an emotional connection and “reset” to get back to having a good time - let’s shift the focus and get physical…
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