Exploring the Dynamics of Intimacy, Honor, and Complementary Love
There's a Romantic Nature to Men
Men are romantics; there's no denying it.
We embrace life and find ourselves immersed in profound emotions regarding innocence, beauty, and the wonders of existence.
I intended to mention honor, but that term is so subjective that it's akin to discussing the concept of being an "alpha male”.
The notion of honor has been distorted over time, but it undeniably belongs to the realm of a man's romantic nature. Every man roots for the underdog, the little guy who keeps getting up despite being knocked down by giants. Every man has a problem with a three-on-one fight and desires to protect and defend children from harm.
Recently I was feeling ill to my stomach because I was thinking of the man in the movie Nefarious (great cinema), where he *SPOILER ALERT* requests his final meal, and it isn’t given to him for reasons I’ll not share, so as not to ruin anything, but something being taken from the innocent made me physically uncomfortable; it didn’t sit well with me, even though I knew it was a damn movie.
This inherent romantic nature drives men to do the most extraordinary things when it comes to women.
Fight for a woman.
Sacrifice their lives for a woman.
Put aside their dreams for a woman.
Suppress their utmost desires for a woman.
Choose love over life-altering opportunities.
Resort to extreme measures of violence for a woman.
Why is that?
Because women possess certain qualities that we, as men, lack, and they enamor us.
Women are gentle where we are tough; they radiate a pleasant fragrance and exemplify cleanliness while we often reek of sweat and grime. They bring an element of youthful joy to life's journey, while we, as men, tend to become too mission-focused and forget to appreciate the present moments.
Women are complementary to men, they’re everything we aren’t, and that's why we love them, sometimes at the expense of our own well-being.
My wife is nothing like me, yet she complements me perfectly.
When I gaze at my wife, the world seems to slow down.
I'm not saying this as a cliché or borrowing lines from a movie; it's a genuine experience.
She keeps me grounded, even though there are times when I get frustrated and tell her to take things more seriously. But deep inside, I can't help but smile because I know she's right. I often get too caught up in life, and sometimes I need to take a step back and say,
Many men out there have wives who could be an incredible complement to their lives, yet they fail to bring out their feminine beauty. They neglect to create that strong masculine presence that allows their wives to embrace their womanhood to the fullest.
In my case, I fulfill my role as a man, and as a result, my wife enriches my life, making it easier to navigate. We operate at a high tempo in our home, and it is at this high speed that if we were to not be on the same page with where we were looking to go in life, the crash would be deadly.
How can you get along with your spouse, and more importantly, how can you keep intimacy, honor, and “Love” alive in a marriage, for life, while the world is telling you that these things are nonexistent?
Here are some examples of complementary love, respect, and honor:
My wife once surprised me by buying an old desk and dedicating hours to restoring it. She didn't tell me about it; she wanted to make something special for Father's Day, knowing my passion for writing.
Every day when I come home from work, I'm welcomed with homemade meals, the children taken care of, and a beautiful wife dressed in something sexy or wearing something underneath her clothes that she playfully reveals to me when the kids aren't around.
We work together to keep our children away from excessive screen time. Instead, we engage in activities like reading, painting, sports, crafts, etc., with them while maintaining a well-run household.
We divide tasks by tag-teaming chores like dishes, trash, lawn care, house cleaning, and laundry. We each have our roles and responsibilities, and together, as a united front against the world, we make it work.
I have a deep love for photography, and lately, I've made a conscious effort to carry my camera more often. This has led to impromptu photo shoots with my wife in the most unexpected places. I show her that she is the one I want in front of me, and after all these years, I still want to look at her beautiful face.
Doesn't your woman have the same effect on you?
Let her know if she does, don’t assume it.
Let her know those things that stand out to you; show her through action that you’re still into who she is and all the things you have that you don’t, which keep you captivated.
Sadly, many husbands and wives lack intimacy and are overly critical.
What happened to the joy?
When and why did things become so serious?
Why aren't you treating her the way you used to?
Why aren't you cherishing her as the woman you desire while still maintaining your independence?
Treat her like someone you crave and a fun-loving wife as you walk your path and embrace your life's mission; always remember that she is a part of your purpose in life, never the point of it.
I add that as the reminder that your life is more than your marriage, which in itself will improve your marriage as how can you honor that which you disgrace?
Make no mistake; you disgrace yourself and your wife by taking your foot off the gas and allowing the relationship to atrophy over years of neglect and an inability to fan the flames of attraction and desire.
If your relationship is struggling, here's what you can do:
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