Mastering Irrational Self-Confidence

How to Develop Unshakeable Belief in Yourself

Self-confidence is one of the most valuable qualities a person can possess.

Unfortunately, many struggle with self-doubt and insecurities, holding them back from reaching their true potential. Despite sound logic, rational odds, and past failures, the need to develop an unshakeable belief in oneself is essential, beautiful, and a gift to your present and future self.

Let us explore the importance of believing in oneself, ways to develop self-confidence, and examples of people who have mastered it.

The Importance of Believing in Yourself

Believing in one’s self is the starting point to building a foundation of success; belief is the very first brick laid, it’s you saying, I can create something here. If you didn’t believe you were worth it, why would you ever attempt to lay a brick?

Belief is what gets you started, confidence is what keeps you going…

When individuals have confidence in their ability, self-worth, and commitment to a task they are more likely to take risks, seize opportunities, and persevere in the face of setbacks. Self-confidence also helps people to have better mental health, as it reduces stress and anxiety, improves self-esteem, and allows one to focus on their goals.

I could not have made it to where I’m at in life without having believed I was worth the effort. From that point, all I needed was the confidence that I could do it.

Going from “I am worth this” to “I’m doing this” is hitting the point where you strip the bullshit that’s been placed between your ears by others for years now. You have to stop allowing who you were to dictate who you become, and more so, you must be willing to let go of the standards placed upon you by others.

1. Your parents don’t approve?

2. Your friends and peer-group aren’t supportive?

3. Your teachers, bosses, and mentors don’t think it’s possible?

Go out there and pursue your goals anyways, what do you gain by proving your doubters right?

In every situation which presents itself to you from the reading of this article on say, “Yes, I can handle that.” and then go and do it. Volunteer for the role, ask the person out, apply for the promotion, jump into the water, etc. Do it all with commitment to yourself so that if you fail, you do not view it as a mistake. I have confidently fucked up and gotten it wrong, so be it. When you make a mistake, it doesn’t make you a mistake; confidence does not die with a stumble or fall, it dies when you refuse to stand back up.

Mistakes will be made, but no growth will ever occur until you allow yourself to speak and act in a manner that is free from the avoidance of attention and permission.