When I audit where I’m at in life and map where I want to go, I like to break things down into five categories as it simplifies the process. With New Year’s coming up, I’m sharing my 5-Point System for you to take and use to set yourself up for a killer 2023.
This isn’t entirely selfless;
By putting my goals onto this platform, I’ll also have accountability to those here and myself when I look back at this piece.
What is the 5-Point System?
Mind
Body
Spirit
Finances
Relationships
Below I share my goals and the theory behind setting myself up this way; you are free to steal, adapt, and implement whatever you see however you want. My goal in writing this piece is for you to have a clear track to make this coming year one where you become the person you’ve fought so hard to be for so long.
Let this be the last year you leave anything on the table…
Category 1: The Mental Goals
Your mindset matters more than anything else, as it’s in your mind that all motivation, inspiration, and execution are found. It’s also where doubt, scarcity, and self-sabotage sprout; therefore, we must ensure we are intentional with each of our thoughts.
If you want to improve your mindset, you need to keep two things in mind:
You have to be positive when you think of yourself.
You have to believe you can do what you set out to do.
Be Positive.
The world is hard enough on each of us, so give yourself some grace and have your back. You can improve your mindset by setting realistic and achievable goals, then breaking them down into bite-size actions (How do you eat a dinosaur? One bite at a time), then continuing the process towards a deadline you’ve set. This will give you a clear path to hit the milestones you’re aiming for, and you’ll do so sustainably.
This can’t happen when you keep telling yourself you’re a bad person.
Believe in you.
If you don’t think you are worth love, success, or happiness, you will do all you can, consciously or subconsciously, to prove yourself correct. Let’s break that pattern and start thinking of ourselves as worthy of winning and deserving of it. Track your progress towards goals and reward yourself in a way that celebrates success and enjoys the process, not just product attainment. enjoy the grind of life, and don’t try to rush through it to the finish line.
Your mind is where everything starts and ends, and heading into 2023 should be incentive enough to drop the excuses and accept; you may have fallen a few times, but you’re still here, which means you can get back up.
Category 2: The Physical Goals
When you look good and feel good, you are good.
Most people have no idea what homeostasis in their body feels like, they’re either aching, exhausted, in pain, or uncomfortable extending beyond carrying around excess weight, but also uncomfortable being seen by others.
Think of the man whose gut covers his belt or the woman who has to try on 30 different shirts to find the flattering one…
It’s fucking exhausting to try and hide your imperfections.
Instead, why not address them and work yourself to where you can think less about how you look and more about how proud you are of your new look?
I’m not obese or fat, but I’m not sitting here with clearly defined abs, so I’m not turning any heads. My goals are different than the “average man”; I want an excellent physique, which means I must stop cutting corners as I race around the track.
“Cheaters never win.”
I hired a trainer and have worked to optimize my hormones and nutrition + training programmed by a professional (My Coach is Phil Foster from PhilFosterFitness.com), which makes it easier for me to stick to.
I am not here to judge your character, values, or morals, and I hope you aren’t judging mine based on what I’m about to say-
It’s okay to build your physique for strictly aesthetic and vain reasons.
If you want to get shredded for the sake of being hot, then do so and if you want to get in shape because you’re sick of dealing with a fat spouse, then do so and if you want to get in shape because you want other people to compliment you - then go out and get it.
I’m a mixture of both worlds; I want to get in shape because I want to be the grandfather running around and active with my grandkids, but I also want to get in shape for the energy and respect that comes with having something which cannot be bought.
Hard Bodies are earned, and people know that; I want it bad in 2023, and I’m going to get it - I hope you join me.
Category 3: Let’s Get Spiritual
I’m not a religious man; I am a spiritual one.
It sounds like a “cop out”, but it isn’t; I don’t believe in any of the Gods people worship on Earth as nobody knows for sure what they’re committing themselves to and the hypocritical oversights required to accept one and not the other is something I’m incapable of brushing under the rug.
I’m not anti-religion; it has done great things for humanity and people I know personally, so who am I to knock it? But when I say it’s time to get spiritual, I don’t mean with the Gods; I mean with life.
We were meant to operate our entires existences in nature, not in climate-controlled everything. That removal from the Earth as it was to be in the world as man has made it out to be has brought devastation to people’s integration to what bonds us all.
There’s an energy that unites every human being on this Earth, it unites all living things, and it’s here that we must return.
Going outside to feel the warmth, getting in the water, under trees, exposed to the wind, and wet from rain make you feel more alive than any screen ever could. Instead of watching videos about hikes, caves, mountains, and beaches - see them.
Put your feet in the sand, your hands on the rocks, and your eyes upon our world's beauty. You can’t live a life of nihilism when you’re exposed to nature every week.
Category 4: Time to Grow the Money Tree
Financially, 2022 was my worst year, and I have finances directly in my crosshairs for 2023.
People make all content creators out to be Lambros, but the truth is there are levels to this, and without systems in place to ensure growth, you can stagnate at a level and even slide down some pegs.
That happened to me this year; things were booming with serious momentum in 2020. I did not put the systems in place to amplify the energy or capitalize financially on the eyeballs looking at my work. In 2021 and 2022, the numbers have been on the decline, but recently that trend has reversed, and it’s due to me going back to what worked.
Focusing less on some things and more on others, letting the distractions lay where they are, and priorities are given their due time and attention.
The world has been squeezing everyone; I’m not unique in this, so for others who’ve had a rough 2022, let’s bulk the accounts while we lean our bodies. Times may have been hard, and there’s no sign of that slowing up or down, so it’s on us to get stronger and grab life by the horns. If you want this bull to run to profitable lands, you must steer it in that direction.
Look at your expenses as much as you are increasing your income; you may find that you need to spend less as much as you do making more and from there, begin tracking what is happening with your pennies. In the same way, a physically fit body does not automatically appear, nor will a healthy bank account.
Track those fiscal macros.
Category 5: What is Life without Relationships?
Nothing is worth anything if you have nobody to share it with. Life is good, books are great, and solitude is necessary, but at some point, you need another to share the experience. In those relationships, we must prioritize people over the distractions that will infinitely present themselves.
Relationships with people provide companionship, support, and a sense of belonging to something greater than yourself. In our relationships, we know our birth has a purpose: to be seen, heard, and known.
Relationships are crucial to your mental and emotional well-being, and I hope that in 2023, anyone who feels alone or isolated as if they don’t matter will find a reason to pick up the phone, reach out, and start a conversation.
If you find yourself in a situation where people surround you, but the standard of your relationships is lacking, then I’d ask you to look at what you can do to strengthen these bonds.
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Instead of talking to those around you about “The Big Game”, getting drunk, or bullshitting about politics ad nauseam, why not start a conversation about money, parenting, marriage, or how to improve the local community?
Your bond will improve when you improve the bonding activities, and instead of sticking to surface-level engagement, why not sink deep hooks into one another, letting them see and connect with the real you, the one that has original thoughts and personal opinions supported by deeper emotions that “I like this”?
Let’s end 2022 with momentum and make 2023 the year we find ourselves again and pick up the slack to get back in gear, enjoying the life we were meant to live. I’m going all in on this, and I look forward to growing and learning with each of you.
- Zac Small
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