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The Importance of Irrational Self-Confidence
Believe In Yourself Even When You Don't Have A Reason To
Believing in yourself is one of the most important things you can do to optimize your life experience.
It can be easy to let the opinions of others or fear of failure cloud your judgment and make it difficult for you to ever feel confident either in your abilities to be “good enough” or whether even success is “real” and instead, people are just being kind or playing a trick on you.
It may seem difficult to comprehend, and I say that as someone who was once very insecure, but it’s essential to understand that believing in yourself is the key to a happier and more successful life.
You Have to Have Your Back
No matter what your odds are, having faith in yourself is the first step toward achieving your goals.
When you believe in yourself, you begin to take risks, take action and make decisions that will best serve you in the long run while possibly being uncomfortable in the immediate moment. With 2023 having just kicked off, what better time than now to start giving yourself some belief that if you go forward, you might succeed in your goals?
Only when you believe you have a chance at “making it” will you start to trust yourself to be you and let the world see who you are because you finally see that you are a good thing - and not someone to be ashamed of…
Not believing in yourself can have devastating consequences.
Low self-esteem can lead to poor mental health and a lack of motivation.
It can also prevent you from taking chances and pursuing the goals that are most important to you. Insecure individuals can quickly become overwhelmed and discouraged by even minor challenges.
Here’s the thing rarely discussed: It’s not that the minor tasks of cleaning a room or giving a presentation to a class or coworkers are that big of a deal. The problem is all the other things going on in a person’s head while trying to perform these tasks.
Let’s take giving a brief report, for example:
In essence, it’s standing up and delivering some information the speaker likely knows, but if the speaker is an insecure individual, then it’s no longer just “getting up and speaking”; instead, it’s:
I’m going to forget what to say.
I look stupid, I should have worn a better outfit.
My stomach hurts, I should (or should) have eaten)
They’re talking about me.
They’re laughing at the way I speak or pronounce words.
My parents were right; I’ll never be good enough; I can’t even give a stupid little talk.
Why am I here?
I should leave, say I’m sick.
These thoughts are rapidly fired into this individual's mind, and that barely scratches the surface of what they’re literally feeling; having a pounding or racing heart, sweating, headaches, irritability, anxiety, etc…
It’s a brutal way to live, and as I shared, I’ve been there.
It wasn’t until I began to focus on myself, and not those evaluating me that I started to find myself in life and “grow up” because so long as I was attacking myself inside, I was kept from ever blooming into the man I was meant to be.
That’s one of the reasons I call this “Irrational Self Confidence”, because it makes no sense. Anyone with confidence issues asks, “What the fuck are you talking about Zac? Just believe in yourself. Okay, how about you stop believing in Hallmark cards..?”
I get it.
To believe in yourself for no reason other than knowing you aren’t going to give up this time, no matter the resistance, is a weird thought for many. Because of the human mind’s ability to override the senses, jumping off cliffs, out of planes, etc., it’s clear that we have the mental capacity to override the fear of judgment and traumatic self-loathing.
The question becomes, do you want to?
I can’t answer that part for you, but I can give you a piece of advice and 5 points on what to expect when you do choose to make this leap.
My Advice (bullet points below for the TL;DR crowd)
I don't critique myself when I stand in front of a crowd. I gave myself permission long ago to take that approach to everything in life. When I do a thing, I’m not worried about how it will be received because I’m not there to consume me; I’m here to create and deliver the energy to them.
Do the same.
Stop watching yourself and start speaking to the world and showing who you are; let them watch you, but as long as you stay out of your head, the anxiousness will as well.
5 Ways being a Confident Individual helps you:
1. It boosts your confidence
When you believe in yourself, you become more confident in your abilities. You’re more likely to take risks and try new things, which can help you grow and develop.
Believing in yourself is also a great way to combat self-doubt and negative thoughts.
2. It encourages you to take action
Believing in yourself will give you the courage to take action and pursue your goals. It will motivate you to keep going, even when things don’t go as planned.
You’ll be more likely to take risks and push yourself out of your comfort zone.
3. It helps you reach your goals
Believing in yourself is essential for reaching your goals. Your goals will seem more achievable, and you’ll be more likely to stay focused and dedicated to reaching them.
When you believe in yourself, staying motivated and progressing is easier.
4. It builds resilience
Believing in yourself will help you become more resilient. You’ll no longer be so easily defeated by failure or criticism.
You’ll take it in stride, use it as a learning opportunity, and move on.
5. It improves your mental health
Believing in yourself will improve your mental health. You’ll be more positive, have a better outlook on life, and be less likely to be affected by negative thoughts or emotions.
For once, you’ll stop beating yourself up and instead start treating yourself like someone you like and want to see win.
No matter what odds you may be facing, it’s essential to believe in yourself.
Believing in yourself as a person will give you the confidence, courage, and motivation to take action and reach your goals. It will also help you become more resilient and improve your mental health.
So, no matter the odds, never forget to believe in yourself; especially when it doesn’t make sense.
And for the love of whatever you hold dear, stop critiquing yourself; the world will do enough of that - you just go out and share your message and energy with the world.
- Zachary Small
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