The Process Is the Point
Why “Ready” Is a Lie, Perfection Is an Illusion, and the Messy Middle Is Where You Become Somebody
Most people don’t quit because they’re incapable…
They quit because they expected the process to feel like the product; they wanted the finished photo without taking 10,000 bad shots.
They want a strong body without the months of a transitioning physique, which can include awkward phases.
They want a successful business without embarrassing marketing attempts or delivery mistakes in the beginning.
They want peace without the hard conversations.
They want confidence without the failed reps.
And when real life showed up, slow progress, mistakes, off-days, setbacks, doubt, they assumed something was wrong.
Nothing was wrong, that is the work…
Life isn’t just the final product you post, celebrate, or get praised for.
Real life is the daily grind of becoming.
It’s the boredom, the repetition, the “I’m not there yet” and the uncomfortable learning curve, the days you don’t feel talented, the days you don’t feel inspired, the days you still show up anyway, and in that understanding is an awareness that the process is the point.
“I’ll start when the time is right”
That sentence has assassinated more dreams than failure could ever will.
Because “the time is right” usually means when one thinks they’re guaranteed to look competent, not to be judged, not to feel stupid, not to waste effort, and not get laughed at…
Perfection is an illusion people cling to because it gives them a clean excuse to stay safe; it’s a polished way of saying, “I’m scared.”
If you negotiate with fear, it will keep moving the goalposts, so the time is never “right”; all you have is the messy right now, own it.
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Most people don’t connect with perfection
The masses admire success from a distance, and they will clap when you win, but it’s followed with a “must be nice”, as they don’t often connect with success, they connect with the process of trying far more, and if you don’t show that, they assume you were just given what you attained.
Hiding the process of what it took for you to achieve your goal, in a way, robs you of the external fruit of that achievement. Your personal pride should be enough, but who doesn’t appreciate validation of effort?
Show the early mornings, the relapse and recommitment, the second attempt, the camera settings you screwed up, the video you almost didn’t post, the mile you walked when you didn’t feel like it, the moment you wanted to quit, and you didn’t…
Show it because most people are living in the middle of their own story, not the highlight reel and they need to see your process to remain committed to their own.
When you share the process, you don’t just build a brand; you give others permission to keep going.
Avoiding judgment is a full-time job, and it pays you in anxiety.
If you wait until you’re “good enough” to share your work, your growth, your learning, your story, then you’re basically waiting until the most relatable part of your journey is over, and you won’t get those moments back to share with others.
